Smelling like roses when manure is around your feet

I love this quote "Life wasn't meant to be easy BUT it was meant to be enjoyable". I know it sounds like a contradictory of terms BUT it is all about how you view life and what it means to you.  Life IS hard, some times more than others, but what are you going to focus on?? 

I always say to my kids when they are trying to blame someone or something else that when you are pointing that finger how many are pointing back at you? And the answer of course is 3. Try it and have a look yourself. So the way I look at it is that you are 3 times more responsible for that undesirable outcome. We all try and make excuses. So first of all STOP making excuses and come up with solutions. 

Secondly, (and this is a biggy) forgive.

I can hear you all say HOW???? Well the short truth of the matter is that it is your choice to forgive. It doesn't mean forget or that there are no consequences. What you have done is released yourself from the weight of trying to get revenge or justification and right a wrong. This is liberating!!!!

(after forgiveness you feel exposed, unlovable and you have your guard up like those thorns)

Thirdly, look after yourself. This doesn't mean go on extravagant holiday or on a wild spending spree. This means put yourself around people who build you up, who you can confide in. This also means, that if  you have been under a great deal of stress go and do something you love like read a book for a few hours or go for a walk. I know for myself it's having some alone time and watch a couple of DVDs while laying on my bed  or having a shower with no one else in the house and enjoy not being interrupted and the quiet. Or it could be as simple as going to bed early.

(a little TLC)

Fourthly, GET BACK ON THAT HORSE AGAIN!!!! After you have done all of the above don't keep yourself away from life as there is so many things that will bring you joy. Even if it has been past hurts with relationship, the joy is when you either reconcile or find a new friend who brings great fun, love and encouragement to your life. There is always tomorrow, a new day, a fresh start. 

(now you can be whatever colour you want)

Live outside the box. Life wasn't meant to be easy BUT it was meant to be enjoyable!!

From My heart to yours, 

Peta