I’ve been reading this amazing book called “Winning
with people” written by John C. Maxwell. This book is all about fostering and
working on, and most of all valuing good relationships. It is what makes the world
go round.
The thing I like most
of all about this book is a chapter called The Situational
Principle. The key point I got out of this is that if you value your relationships, not to put the situation you are going through with this person
(especially if it is wasn’t good and hurtful words were said) before your
relationship/ friendship. Keeping a good relationship or friendship is hard work and quite often forgiveness (not forgetting) is required. One of the quotes in this book spoke to me loudly is "It is more rewarding to resolve a situation than to dissolve a relationship".
Good friendships are worth fighting for. That is why we are alive and come alive......................... for relationships!
My husband and I have run a number of Pre-Marriage and Marriage courses. In these courses they talk about putting this issue out in front of you. This means that this disagreement you are having, don't make it wedge between you and make that the issue. Start to come together and discuss how we together are going to find a solution to that problem. An old counselling term "the problem is the problem". Let's try and keep it that way.
Now it is your turn. Here is my question to you that the writer of this book posed to us, "Do I sometimes put situations ahead of my relationships?"
I want to encourage you not to think only of all your adult friendships/ relationships but also those you have with your children (if you have any).
Now you have that answer what are YOU going to do about it? It is my EVERY DAY decision to try and make sure that no situation, especially with family, means more to me than the relationship.
I know you can do this too!
